From Full Nest to Empty Nest - Embracing the journey

I’ve seen it happen to so many of my friends: that moment when the kids leave home, and suddenly, you’re officially an empty nester. The house feels quieter, bigger, and somehow, just… different. While I’m not there yet, with one living nearby and another who’s graduated but still at home, I find myself thinking more and more about what it will feel like when that day eventually comes.

Many of my friends thought they were ready for the transition – they’d raised their kids, prepared them for the world, and they were excited for a little freedom. But then, reality hit. The house suddenly seemed too quiet, and the hustle and bustle of daily life was replaced with an unexpected feeling of loneliness. It’s surprising how much this “empty nest syndrome” can feel like grief or loss. Changes in sleep patterns, appetite, or mood are common, and it can catch even the most prepared parents off guard.

As I watch my kiddos grow and prepare to fly on their own, I can’t help but feel a mix of emotions. I’ve coached others through these transitions, seen the ups and downs, and yet I still find myself a bit nervous. I know not every parent experiences this sadness, but if you do, having a supportive network – whether family, friends, or even a life coach – can make all the difference in managing this new chapter.

But here's the silver lining: this new stage can also be an incredible opportunity to rediscover yourself and pursue your own dreams. My friends, who have already made this transition, tell me they now have time to savor life’s little pleasures, like watching movies late at night without interruptions, walking around the house in their pajamas (or less!) without judgment, and leaving a mess in the kitchen just because they can! It’s not all bad – there are definite perks!

Preparing for the Transition

Before your kids leave the nest, it’s a good idea to start thinking about what you want to do with this newfound time. Maybe it's a new hobby, more time with your partner or friends, or even some solo travel. It’s okay to grieve, even if you’ve been looking forward to this moment. Allow yourself to feel whatever comes up – sadness, loneliness, excitement – it’s all valid.

And once you’ve processed those feelings, start dreaming again! Some of my friends and coaching clients have found that this period was a wonderful time to reconnect with their partners, to rediscover shared interests, or even to find new things they enjoy doing together. You can plan date nights, take trips, or just spend time together without the logistics of managing a child's schedule. It can be a beautiful rediscovery of freedom and adventure – who knew you’d get to be adventurous again with the person you love?

Embrace New Adventures

Don’t forget to focus on yourself – maybe it’s finally time to start that yoga practice, cook healthy meals, or simply get more rest. And it’s also a great time to reconnect with your own interests and passions. Have you always wanted to take a class, volunteer, or start a new hobby? Now’s the time!

Even with all this freedom, you might still miss your kids, and that’s okay! Keep in touch, invite them for family dinners, or plan occasional trips together. They’re still a huge part of your life and finding a balance that honors both their independence and your connection can be rewarding.

Joining local groups, like a book club, hiking group, or volunteer organization, can also help fill your days with joy and purpose. Staying active in your community is a great way to combat any feelings of loneliness.

A Time for Exploration and Growth

Moving from a bustling house to a quieter one can be an emotional experience, but it can also be a chance to finally do the things that bring you joy. With some thoughtful planning and goal setting, this stage can be a thrilling new chapter in your life.

Remember, becoming an empty nester is a unique experience for each of us, and it might take time to adjust. Be patient with yourself, focus on personal growth, and enjoy the opportunities that come with this new phase. Most importantly, don’t worry! You might feel strange at first without the chaos of kids around, but soon, you’ll come to appreciate the freedom that comes with this next chapter.

So, here’s to embracing the adventure of being an empty nester – making the most of this time and enjoying every single moment!