The idea of self-love is often considered to be a key aspect of someone's well-being. If you ask some people, they might even say that having positive feelings about yourself as the key to happiness.
But what about you? What comes to mind when you hear that you need to practice “self love” or “learning to love yourself”?
Do you think it's a bunch of BS and feel like it is selfish or narcissistic or self-indulgent?
Do you think it's a bit too fluffy and not very achievable?
Or do you think it's something that you want to get on board with, but just not sure how?
With so many opinions out there, it's hard to know what to think. For me, it is an essential part of living a more fulfilled life.
Self-love is treating yourself with kindness, care, and respect. It is an appreciation of your own worth or virtue and creating an environment for your own happiness or well-being.
It’s being mindful of your own feelings and needs, setting healthy boundaries, and having the confidence to accept and express yourself authentically. Self-love is a process of loving yourself deeply, with compassion and understanding, and seeing yourself as a whole, imperfect human being.
It’s easy to understand why self-love is so difficult for so many people.
Our society is flooded with messages about how we should look, act, and be in order to be beautiful, successful, and accepted. We are bombarded with images of perfection, and it’s no wonder that many of us struggle to keep up and get stuck in a cycle of self-criticism and feeling “not good enough.”
Never feeling “good enough” can lead to a lack of self-care, believing that we don’t deserve love or approval, and feeling disconnected from our true selves. A lack of self-love can manifest itself in the form of negative behavior patterns, like overeating or self-sabotaging relationships. It can also lead to depression, anxiety, and an overall sense of dissatisfaction with life.
So, Why is Self-Love so Important?
Self-love is essential to feeling secure and stable, mentally, emotionally, and physically. When we love ourselves, we are better equipped to create meaningful relationships, be our own best cheerleaders, and take care of our physical and mental health.
Self-love isn’t something that happens overnight. It takes time and work to learn to love and accept yourself, but it is possible. Instead of striving for perfection, focus on self-care, being proactive in taking care of your well-being, and being kind and gentle to yourself. Cultivating self-love also involves identifying your negative thoughts, learning to practice self-compassion and setting healthy boundaries.
Spend Time Alone
Make it a point to spend some quality time alone each day doing the things you love. This will give you the opportunity to reconnect with yourself and your goals.
Get Rid of Negative Thoughts
Take time to identify and get rid of any negative thoughts and stories you may be telling yourself and replace them with positive affirmations.
Be Kind to Yourself
Treat yourself with kindness and respect. Talk to yourself like you would a dear friend. Realize that mistakes are a normal part of life and show yourself grace and forgiveness when you stumble along the way.
Nurture Your Dreams
Give yourself permission to dream and take action towards that dream. Even small steps are a big step forward.
Notice the Good
Focus on the good things you have accomplished and the things you have to be thankful for. Acknowledge your successes and realize the power you have to create change.
Self-love can be difficult, but it’s worth the effort. Cultivating self-loving habits can improve your mental health, support you in creating meaningful relationships and lead to a life of fulfillment, joy and success.